Well, I bit the bullet and called support.  I actually got through immediately to support and a very nice lady helped me out.  Found out the spouse's return didn't show up on Intuit's computers.  She tried a few things to see if we could get it out of the accepted tab, without success.  Finally I just deleted the return and did a fresh transfer.  I am back in sync and life is good.  Well, not necessarily good since I lost part of the day to play this game of hide and seek but at least I am back in business.  I'll give a thumbs up to support for today.  Actually I'll give two thumbs up ------------- I'm feeling generous.