They changed it to autopilot this year but are supposed to be bringing back the manual option here in the next few days.

You can try this

Update>Automatic Updates (Task Scheduler)

Unfortunately nothing beyond that works because in their infinite wisdom intuit decided they knew when to update our stuff better than we do.

We have been told that this will change at some point to allow us to make our own decisions, but WHEN is the big question

Top menu bar  Information > Logs > Updates Log   you'll see that the updates are happening in the background automatically.